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5 More Helpful Things to Say Than "Calm Down"

In times of conflict, here's how to not add fuel to the fire.

In all my years as a psychologist specializing in anxiety, and as a relentless observer of human interaction, I can't think of a single time where the words "Calm down!"—especially shouted in a voice that is itself tense-- had the desired effect. Whether it is during an argument with your partner, as a bystander to your child's tantrum, or in a stressed-out moment with a critical colleague, "Calm down!" often has exactly the opposite effect.

Remembering Who’s the Parent

To get their way, teens often try to reduce your authority.

One of the problems we all face in life is when our emotions get the better of us. Teenagers can easily try our patience and if you have one, it’s likely they do so regularly. They behave poorly at times and can cause our blood pressure and frustration levels to rise. As a result, we sometimes are not at our best and do things that are counter-productive to getting the results we want as parents. In fact, there are times we may revert back to loud arguing with our teen and as such, reduce our stature as parents. We may say things we don’t mean or wish we could take back. Clearly, upon reflection, we often wish we had handled things differently.

Fight, Flight, or Freeze: What Is the Stress Response For?

Have you noticed how your body reacts when you’re surprised or nervous about something? It’s trying to get you ready to properly react to the perceived threat.

This is your fight, flight, or freeze response, also known as the stress response. It’s a physiological reaction to something your body has perceived as a threat.

5 Rules for Making Quicker, Better Decisions

Decision-making can be exhausting and anxiety-provoking.

Decision fatigue is when your decision-making quality gets worse after having made lots of decisions. In everyday life, it results from having to make dozens of small and large decisions throughout the day. For many of us, our jobs involve constant decision-making, as does parenting.

Tips for How to Explain Depression So Other People Understand

Explaining depression isn’t easy. The condition can rob you of the desire to connect with others and leave you searching for words to describe the emptiness inside.

This article offers simple strategies that may help you explain what you’re going through to people who may not have been there themselves. It also offers ideas for getting support in the midst of depression.

How to Take Criticism Gracefully

These 12 tricks will help you respond to any critic.

Criticism is part and parcel of living in the world. Posting on social media, performing your stand-up comedy, or even coaching your kid’s soccer team will all invite judgment and criticism. And doing anything truly innovative will guarantee it. So how can you ready yourself and not be discouraged from stepping outside of your box? Here are 12 ways to deal with four different kinds of criticism.

Strained Relationship? Focus on the Future, Not the Past

Learn the lessons of the past without having to rehash it.

Many of us have had close relationships that have become strained or estranged, whether it is due to a specific hurtful incident or a final last straw from wounds accumulated over time. We may cut ties or pull back. In these relationships, we stop talking, or talk "cordially" but never again are fully engaged or trusting.

What to Know About Depression in the Black Community

Black folks account for almost 20% of people with depression in the United States, yet they’re less likely to receive treatment.

We strive to share insights based on diverse experiences without stigma or shame. This is a powerful voice.

Don't Beat Yourself Up for Not Being the Perfect Parent

Our parenting standards are unrealistic. Focus on the important things.

I have studied parenting on five continents for close to four decades. I'm also a mom — the mom of two sons, one of them who is very sick. I know what it is to beat yourself up about not being a perfect parent.

What to know about social media and mental health

Social media use can lead to low quality sleep and harm mental health. It has associations with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem.

Many people in today’s world live with their smartphones as virtual companions. These devices use electronic social media networks that alert users to updates on friends, favorite celebrities, and global events. Social media has become firmly integrated into a lot of people’s daily lives. According to the Pew Research Center, 72% of people in the United States now use social media.

8 Tips to Get to the Root of Your Anxiety and Why It Matters

Understanding where your anxiety comes from may help you find effective ways to manage it long term.

Symptoms of anxiety often have a root cause, sometimes beyond our awareness. Beneath the shakiness, sweaty palms, and queasy stomach may reside a reason you’re hurting, afraid, uncertain, or ashamed.

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